Belief System

Driving towards the office, one pretty normal day, I was faced with an event that significantly changed how I thought about certain things. Well, usually I leave a bit early to reach my workplace on time and that day was no different. Light music was playing in the background inside the car, the road was pretty smooth and I was driving slowly towards my destination. Suddenly, a biker swerved in front of me at such a great speed that I had to slam my foot on the break to avoid hitting him which would’ve resulted in both him getting hit and my car getting damaged. As he went on, I started murmuring insults at him inside my car.

Well the biker moved on and drove around a dog just like he had with my car; the dog obviously started barking at him. That, for me, was when I realized that when someone ruthlessly crosses us over and we start shouting insults at him or if not even at him but within our own mind too, what difference remains between the dog who barks at him and us who shout at him. It doesn’t even affect the person who annoyed you, he moved on and you should too. What is the use of escalating a fight when you can avoid one altogether?

This very thing, us shouting at a random stranger, has a ripple effect on our mind and causes us to be grumpy and in a bad mood throughout the day.

We all know this obviously, and yet we choose to act on impulse, abandoning our whole belief system. Ok so let’s first clarify what a belief system actually is. A belief system is an ideology or a set of principals created by one, accepted by others, generalized by society and labelled as normal. Or we might say that it is an ideology or set of principles that helps us to interpret our everyday reality. This could be in the form of religion, political affiliation, philosophy, or spirituality, among many other things. An example of a belief system could be when it comes to human nature, do you believe that we are inherently selfish or selfless?

Our beliefs are shaped and influenced by number of different factors, and we are talking now about social influence on our belief systems.


Let’s take an example. I feel happy when a guest visits me and entertain them to the best of my ability because I believe that they are blessings from God. Let’s say that they come to my place to have tea. I take out my best utensils, serve them the best snacks I can find and treat them with honour. On the other hand, when I visit their house for tea, I don’t receive similar treatment and am served whatever food they had in their house at the time. This affects my belief system and the next time they come over to my house, I don’t serve them in a similar fashion that I served them in previously. What does that imply? It implies that I abandoned my own beliefs and took upon myself his actions, not thinking about whether it was right or wrong, good or bad, in accordance with my nature or not.

This routine of shifting our beliefs as we go on about our lives according to the situations we are face with affects us the most. The thoughts that we create affect our mood and stay with us throughout the day, trapping us in a vicious cycle which we have to strive very hard to come out of.

To maintain our own beliefs, it is a healthy habit to review all our actions and evaluate them before performing them. If not possible, set a time period to review your whole day’s activities, say before going to bed and then try to make amends the next day. This does not go far as to say that your beliefs should never change at all, but instead they should always keep changing for the best. No belief is ever right or wrong and it all depends upon the person’s perception of the world.

I read a story of a girl who was not too short, not too tall, not beautiful but not ugly, not very young not too old, not dressed up to good or nor too bad. She used to walk to work daily. One fine morning she was walking through the street to reach her work place as she passed through a hat shop and instantly her eyes caught sight of a hat she loved and decided to buy it at once. She went inside the shop, put on the hat and saw her face in the mirror. The hat looked very fine on her and that instantly put a smile on her face. She bought the hat and walked towards the office. At the entrance, she was complimented by the security guard and inside, her colleagues also remarked on how commendable she looked today. She worked all the day in a good mood and left for home. As she entered her home, her mother also commented that she indeed did look beautiful. She passed her a smile and told her mom it was because of the hat that she looked remarkable and that everyone had complimented her throughout the day. Her mother asked her which hat she was talking about. Her hand instantly went to her head to take off the hat and show it to her mom but she found that there was no hat there. It instantly clicked her that she had in fact, bought the hat, paid for it, but forgotten it at the cash counter of the store.

This shows that only the thought of having a nice hat on her head made her smile throughout the day resulting in her looking beautiful throughout the day. It is our own thoughts that honour us.

So be positive and welcome positive notes from the environment around you. It will make you happy.

Having a positive belief system helps our thoughts become positive, our thoughts in turn, become our feelings. These feelings promote a positive attitude which makes us perform positive actions. Consistency in these actions develops positive habits and these habits shape our personality which when positive, shapes for us a great destiny.

Be Happy and best always.

Mindfulness

A human being lives his life in the tense as described by English language to be the present, past and future. Every man lives in the present, thinking about his past and worrying about its future and hence remains tense all the time. Do we really realize that? No, and that is the root of trouble in our life. Our true home is the present, the time in which we are living now. If we live these moments with a sense of mindfulness, we can be happier.

Mindfulness is the energy that helps us recognize the condition of happiness which is truly present in our lives. For that we have to come to terms with the fact that the happiness comes from within ourselves and is not from other outer things. Even though circumstances affect our mood reactions a lot but if we start finding happiness in the little things that we have, we can be more peaceful and happier than ever. Mindfulness is a technique to indulge ourselves in the work that we perform such as the breathing in and breathing out. We perform this task throughout the course of the day but if we feel that we are breathing, breathing in and breathing out, we come to think of it as a blessing of God as it is merely through this process that we feel alive.

Another example is that when we are walking on the street and enjoying the hot afternoon time when the sun is shining bright at a great temperature and providing us with heat. If we look around and concentrate upon the pleasant sounds of birds chirping merrily rather than the harsh noises of the traffic, rather than complaining about having to walk in the summer season and whining about not having a vehicle to travel in the scorching heat if we start enjoying the process and pass smiles around to fellow pedestrians it will imprint a positive impression of ourselves in their hearts.

Most people are forgetful; they are not really present at the time. Instead of focusing on the positives, they start focusing on the negatives. This is the opposite of mindfulness and is called forgetfulness. Once we start living in the moment and finding happiness in the small things that happen at the moment, we can achieve the state of mindfulness.

Let us imagine for a second that we are stuck in heavy traffic due to blockage on the road. What do we do? We start getting impatient and may even start driving recklessly causing not others but ourselves harm. With this comes the feeling of fatigue. Instead of getting worked up and impatient we can turn up the music, play something of our own choice and try to relax and calm ourselves. By finding untroublesome solutions to daily life problems as common and small as this, we can reduce a lot of risks like accidents and also save ourselves from harm. Mindfulness reduces anxiety, stress and is good for physical as well as mental health.

All of this does not at all mean that we completely forget about our past and stop planning or thinking about the future. It is merely a tactic to remain calm and peaceful in the present, hence pondering upon the past, learning from previous mistakes and applying the lessons learnt to good use in order to build a better future for ourselves as well as create a positive environment for oneself and others around him. One, when mindful, radiates a welcoming aura of peace, soothing and comfort.

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